Tough love

John  5:8 Jesus saith unto him, Rise, take up thy bed, and walk.

Misguided sympathy is dangerous, because it enables someone to geek sorry for themselves, yet take no action to change things. 

It digs the hole deeper, so thru have less chance of greeting out of it, it also creates a 'leaned helplessness' guaranteeing they will feel even more hopeless. 

Sometimes tough love is what's needed. Although jesus had Compassion for hurting people, He never merely felt sorry for them. 

Whenever possible He helped them to help themselves. Before He worked on their behalf, He often asked them to do something, and sometimes His instructions seems radical. 

For example,... Arise, take up your bed and go... (Mathew 9:6),... Your daughter is dead... Jesus said to the ruler of the synagogue, 'do not be afraid; only believe. (Mark 5:35-36)...

He anointing the eyes of the blind man with clay and said to him... "go, wash in the pool of Siloam". So he went... And came back seeing ' (John 9:1-7)

How could a crippled man rise, take up his bed and walk?, how could a man who just lost his daughter be expected to stay calm?, how could a blind man even see to get to a certain pool of water? 

Instead of merely feeling sorry for people, Jesus moved them to action. 

He helped them to get thier hands off their problems, and motivated then to do something about them. 

At times we feel like we are being unkind if we confront people who have problems, when in reality 'tough love' is what they need. 

Stop feeling sorry fro people, exercise tough love towards them by moving them to action in other to get out of the problems. 

God bless you. 

Prayer key:

1. Lord thank you for the gift of today in Jesus name.

2. Lord, Help me to have love and Compassion on those in need in Jesus name.

3. Lord, help me to help people in Jesus name.

4. Thank you for answered prayers in Jesus Christ name. Amen.